The Common Uncommon

There's often a catch phrase that I hear in anything concerning people, which goes "its really different. Its so not something you find very often....!!" It goes on and on with adding of adjectives to just glorify one simple fact " that something is different !"  Now this "different" can be concerned with either people or things in general. But frankly the obsession of being different is on the high in most of the population.

so what exactly is this "different?"  Is it really different or is it just a matter of seeing something differently...??? Its like a common logic of a glass half filled with water. Some see a half empty glass while others see it full. When we look at people who are really successful in something that really has made a difference not just to them but also to the people around, there's one common observation. These people don't think they have done something "different". For them its just an obvious fact that they have stated. They just justify the saying "winners don't do different things, they just do things differently...!!"

When it comes to something being unusual or not common, is it just really that unusual? If you give it a thought you may get a 'no' as an answer. Its because sometimes we see a person or thing not the way it is meant to be but the way we think it should be. So basically difference is not in the thing but it is in the thought. If we go a bit further on this route we find that too is not so unusual. We just did not take time to notice that there could be other way around.

I mean before Newton discovered gravity, things and people were still standing upright on the earth's surface. The fruits were still falling on the earth. Yet his discovery was new. Not just because he discovered or put forth some excellent work of scientific thought but he also took an effort to think in a way no one thought of!

We have so many ideas, dreams, thoughts that we think are so different from what anyone can think. But frankly, there will be people who share that different-ness with you without either of you noticing it. I'm not saying that everything is same. If that were the case the world would be pretty monotonous a place to live in. I just want to say that the difference we notice is in fact something we have not noticed earlier. Its been out there, just went by unnoticed.

The more we want to be different and protect our specialty, the more we go forward and join the crowd of common-ness...!! As the saying goes "Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder.."  Its just a matter of a simple thought or a moment's gesture, that makes you stand out from the crowd of common- ness. You don't have to do anything special to be different. Sometimes yes, you do take efforts and prove it that you are not the same.  But otherwise you are just a person who needs to feel that difference from within..and you'll know it for yourself.

Making a difference, leaving a mark of your own is a very common desire. What is different is realizing that everything may not be noticed by the world, or make you famous, or earn you a million dollars and yet you choose to do it or be with that one person just because it makes you happy and "different...!!!"

And that is what really is different..!!      

Living The Rules Or Leaving The Rules...??!!!

"I'm a law abiding citizen; "I follow all the rules my parents have told me to follow.." etc etc... We hear these dialogues quite often. The funniest part is that there nothing special about them. They are very common. So we hardly pay any attention to this. Actually we are quite presuming that like us, everyone follows the rules that are applicable to them.
I'm not a very old person. Just 21. But I'm starting to wonder all of a sudden that why is it that i follow the rules? I mean about everything,everyone I have been prescribed to rules. And needless to say I follow them. I'm not a rebel but do have a certain sense of logical thinking being a girl of this generation. I often care about the rules. Well that's an understatement. I am obsessed to follow rules. And I'm sure a typical middle class Indian girl would relate to the fact that our parents taught us some rules and we follow them...unquestioningly. Rare occasions ,we decide to question them, we hear a huge lecture about the bad influence of this generation, disobeying their parents etc etc... which leads us to the basic conclusion to make peace with our parents by saying "sorry" and making a silent note of never to question them again.
But for a while I'm wondering what did I get out of following the rules laid down for me? For example: My doc has forbidden me to have ice creams in any other season than summer. I follow it. I have the fear that I may fall sick if I don't follow this medical rule..!! Every year I have ice creams only in summer and the rest year I brag about the self control I exercise! But a funny thing happened. Its summer right now , I did have ice cream and guess what..? I fell sick..!! The doc said its because of ice creams..had it been winter the reply would be the same.I just wanted to go ahead and point out " Hey doc did you notice..its summer!". Anyway in a nutshell, my self control, my rules failed;so much that I'm planning a trip to a near by ice-cream parlor in winters..! 
Really! Jokes apart, does it ever strike you, "hey why the hell am I following it?" Rules, Regulations, Laws are important for a disciplined life. Code of Conduct, Ethics are the modern day children of "Rules". When I look at rules I realize we obey them not for what they are meant for, but out of the fear that we might loose or something will happen if we failed to follow them.
Its the same thing that is about respect. We don't speak to our elders on 1st name basis. We speak to them in a very disciplined way, with proper names etc. That's respect! Regardless of what we really feel for that elder in our heart,words are respectful..how good is that?
Rules are framed to achieve discipline. All the rules. Be it for you as a citizen of a country or be it for you as a member of family, we all have rules. Common rules keep members at par while dealing with each other. We all are surrounded by en-number of rules. Those are our boundaries. We can't step beyond them. If we do we are not civil..! Convenient isn't it?
We are a generation of thoughts. We have our mind and are not fearful to express it out loud. We have to get up and question a few rules at least to slacken the boundaries of life.! As individuals our generation has followed rules and become a some person for the country lost in a crowd of billions. People who challenged them made their way. They knew this was not acceptable for them and challenged it and stood for it.
What I want to say is that some rules are necessary. To have a certain kind of outcome some rules are needed. They are vital. It won't be wise to question them.But sometimes, there's a world beyond rules! Rules made us all equal. They are needed but not all of them..!
Going ahead and doing what you want is advisable. I mean how many of us really want to try out that one thing we are banned from trying out? I'm sure a lot of us. So go ahead and try it...! When you for yourself realize ,why is it that it was banned, it will be a real rule for you.
Make your own rules. Be a rebel to free yourself from the rules. Learn to breathe. Let people talk,parents shout, teachers punish! But one day not long from now, when you look back to that time you will realize, its my life and I have my rules. People will respect you for what you did! It doesn't always matter if you end up a loser or winner..! What matters is the experience beyond the rule. The joy of breaking a rule will be accomplished when you know and can answer why is it so..?!
So go ahead. Breathe. We are free. Life's too short to waste it in following rules. Make your own rules. Live! What seems a bad thing today may turn out to be legend tomorrow! Its your life...The rules too should be yours..!! what do you say...??!!! 

Being a Woman..!!

We stand at the end of February and the start of March. An important month not only because of the festivities that are lined up in this month,it is the month which celebrates women-hood.  8th March is celebrated as Womens' day all over the world. Being a part of this whole gaga for quite sometime now,i wonder what is so special about it..??
Maybe its a day or rather the only when people congratulate you for being a woman,specially in India. We have had a long tradition of women in historic times till the pre-independence and post independence period and quite recent times who have created a stir and have made their presence felt. Yet the history is also a witness to the bizarre traditions,blind faiths,and rules regarding the guarding of feminity right from Seeta to the latest Nirbhaya .Women have been let down as a weaker sex altogether. Why? I don't know ,and I'm very sure no one can offer a logical based solution to this question that poses in the minds of many "why are women considered a weaker sex??" its like why black is not superior to white? why are some sections in society neglected? and so on... none of these questions hold any logical base nor has history offered to explain why this started in the first place...??!! Isn't it funny how blindly we follow certain things without even thinking them through for its roots,causes and effects!!
Womens' day in India has been quite a celebration for a past few years. May be because of the ever increasing importance of the females in the society,it has become necessary to acknowledge that a women can be more than just a house-wife. Of course house-wives are not at all negligible, but let's face it; they can be achievers in other fields as well..!
In India today we see a dominating female presence in the banking field,a field considered backbone of the financial system of India. Even after that there are women who have to strive to get their basic rights to life and freedom. It is still a prevalent mindset that a daughter is a liability not an asset. There have been over so many cases of female foeticide and there will be..
What troubles me is the thing that why can't we accept females as just the other gender..?? When we have 2 hands to navigate our tasks, when we have 2 legs to help us walk; how can there be only sons and no daughters? When we need and what is necessary is to have a right and left together to be a healthy person..why can't it be so natural as that?  Why do we find a need just to celebrate that 1 day of womanhood and the rest of the time be as vulgar and cynical about women as one can be?
Amidst all the political statements about the Indian women putting their foot down to the wrong and doing it their way, I just want a simple thing...don't celebrate a special day for 24 hours and get back to doing what you were. We don't ask for a special day..all we ask for is respect,freedom, right to live the way we want to, guard our beauty or throw it away the way we want to...!!
If that'll happen I certainly doubt if we really need a special day to celebrate our feminity...!!!

Money,Money Everywhere.....

The heading suggests a lot about what is to follow. Yet , there needs a lot of elaboration to this topic that's here. Money...lovely word isn't it? One can almost smell those fresh,crunch notes coming from an ATM. Aah!! A smell that can cure you of almost all your worries. its an addictive word & thing as well. Why money? because there's only money. Nothing else seems to matter. So powerful yet so dead. Money keeps an economy, house & also people alive &in a working condition. Yet its just money. It can be claimed by anyone,almost the undeserving ones as well. It'll never react to anyone. It'll never question your ethics, conscience or make you guilty by asking unwanted questions. It'll be there just waiting forever. You can keep it where-ever you want,which-ever form you want, with whom-so-ever you want. It feels comfortable in a fixed deposit, current deposit or savings or gold; at the bottom of cereal boxes, some secret places,lockers, old clothes, purses etc. hundreds of imaginable and unimaginable places that are,we can store money. Its not of anyone's curiosity except of thieves & the income-tax department, what you do with your money & where you keep it.
What can be said about something, that's so common, yet so wanted and loved? Yes loved!! Its not romantic, but an exclusive category of love which can't be exactly named. Money-lovers are everywhere. Who have money want some more & those who don't ,need a handful. A simple question asked around a survey about money really made the people pause ,take time & react on the question. The question was as simple as," what is money?" Very few could put it in a properly framed sentence without any hiccoughs to the ideas of their definition of money. Most of the failed. Isn't it funny? How this one thing which drives almost the most significant and insignificant detail in everyone's life has no definition in our own terms??!! We are so used, accustomed to its existence, that we hardly wait or pause and think what is money? Well you may not make up some brilliant definition which will go down in the history and become universal, but yes you may definitely come up with something interesting for yourself if you scratch your noggin's!!
For me money is a life saver in difficult situation,outcome of my family's hard-work, medium of exchange, a source of appreciation on happy occasions and a friend in need yet a villain when it shakes up all your surroundings by dominating you ,suffocating you with its presence when unwanted...
Yes, money unwanted...!! Why on the earth would money be unwanted? Money being unwanted is like you stop breathing...well almost!! But given and accepted what money does,have we ever glanced up and seen that the real things in life were sufficient and much happier without money..!!
When a baby is born it hardly knows who are its parents? What family is it born into? what's the bank account balance?What luxury cars do they have? Nothing...it just reciprocates the touch of love, care & warmth it gets with equal amount of it to all. A stray dog wandering about ,give him a piece of bread,he will remember it always..! The biggest happiness on the earth cannot be bought by money. These are beyond the commercial equations of money. The first touch of your child when born, the secured feeling you get around your loved ones, the joy in the eyes of your parents on your achievement, the getting wet in the first showers, helping an old person out, playing around with kids, dancing off to the tunes of your favorite songs without worrying that some one is watching you, a night walk with your partner, a sleep in your mom's lap, resting head on your dad's shoulder and forgetting all the worries, giggling around with your friends and many more....Money cannot buy a family its whole new ,well-behaved generation, nor its happiness & achievements, nor does money give you shoulder to rest your head on. Its just what man created for his convenience. We created something so not special yet so hard to get, yet so mortal. But God's creations are all free of cost, yet eternal & immortal.
We have forgotten that we have created money & not the other way around. We have allowed money to penetrate so deep into our hearts, emotions, relations that it has taken to control us & now rules unquestioned. Money can create, can destroy, can make people run in their sleep, can change people. Money can do anything for us. It is this power of money that we lust for. No-one is an exception. At some point or other in our lives we have always wanted to be the richest in the world. It is this addiction to money that we don't realize that our happiness and its quality of it are shrinking at a faster rate. We don't realize that the money which can create; can destroy as well. As a matter of fact it has destroyed. When we get a easy way to earn money we opt for it ,hardly realizing what we are signing up for..!! Money has now been a rift-creator in families, generations have been estranged to each other just because of money.
We take a look at the judicial prospective of money we'll find that some where or the other money is the culprit. It has created monsters around us. Money has made friends deceive each-others trust, put love on stake,kill parents, kidnap kids ,molest women & of all end up in nothing but jail.
It is time we realize that money is like ego. Its a double ended knife. Its the sense that we as human beings need to inculcate into the money run system of ours that there may be a day when money may be over, but life will continue. Yes money can buy you a house, but its the people who make it home. It can get you expensive clothes but not respect. It can get the best possible food but not health.
Money is necessary, but not so much that everything runs on it. Its just that we make a point of understanding that should you die rich of money or rich of life??!! The choice is yours to make & live with it..!! Choose cautiously, because whatever you choose money or life, you will die..you'll perish off with time passing by &will be forgotten. Life has a better & stronger chance to be remembered than money. 
Yet we live with it &continue our monetary lives as they were, pondering on this thought for a while not knowing what to do..!! The obvious need be answered, it should just be done &you'll know.... 
Have a life....!! Which one..??!! Choice is yours...!!! 

India 2014 -elections,prime minister and more....!!!

The young voters dilemma has been at a high these days. The elections are here,and as asked by everyone the voters are expected to exercise their right to vote and choose a representative. But as simple as it sounds,its an extremely difficult task. For today's India is known by its dominating youth population who are going to exercise their very 1st voting right. If you ask them what sort of representative would they prefer its not for everyone to know what an ideal leader will be,hence they choose to go by the flow. The flow assures a better administrative control on the weak links of the nation. But the current flow too assures to change the governing techniques and help the nation. As such a new flow too wants to join the mainstream and take part in changing a nation of billions. But the real problem is that all the'flows' seem to be very promising yet there's a chance of huge disappointment that lies ahead.

Now let's see the situation of the voters of this largest democracy in the world. They do know what they want but are not sure who will do it. There's a lot to expect from the politicians or the ruling party who also happen to be as human as the voters. The fact that they are no less human brings us to a question, "Are we expecting too much from them? Is it possible to achieve that dream India that is right down from the dreams of our freedom fighters??". But then another question that strikes is " if it could happen 67 yrs back,with so  less developed facilities why not now?".

No,the expectations of the voters from their representatives are correct and acceptable on all grounds. Its understandable that with a population of billions its not easy to reach and know the problem of every person. But the problems are the same in some or the other way. All the people expect that the governance should be ethical,clean and respectable on all levels of hirarchey of the government.

We are ready to take up the responsibility to elect the correct people. Today's voters situation is similar  to king Dhritrashtra who could now get over wrong and right. But the right does not seem to exsist any more today. We are about to make a choice in the better and acceptable wrong & afterall expect to have an India free of corruption, female-foeticide,red -tapisim,illiteracy,caste,creed barriers....and emerge as a strong and undefeateble nation...as the nation of the people,by the people, for the people...!!!

JAI HIND...!!

Love,Life,Etc....!!!

Love , relationships,partners,dates...!! A silver outline to anybody's life. Basically, all these are important because love and relations comes to us as we live our life. They are not associated with us ever since our birth. God gift's the 'love', most important constituent for almost all of us..!!
Well,love is an universal concept. People have made their own assumptions, traditions and cultures about it and around it. Everyone who fell in love in past, have penned down this wonderful feeling in words...not all but a handful...!! And so love got its boundaries. Already set and decided. 
Love is what brings life to a new existence. Love is what keeps going the human forces against all odds. Love is what keeps two completely different people together. Its a necessity to life;for its nourishment,  & enrichment. 
Partners complete the missing part of one's life. They say 'no-one is perfect'; so when two imperfect people come together they complete life-circles..!! Yet, sometimes things don't work out inspite of the presence of love. Why? Is it not meant to be? Then why were they together for even that particular time that they were? Destiny you say....!! maybe...
On the other hand there lies a question in front of me," can you really tell what goes on in two people? can you tell what their love is all about? ."  The answer is certainly "no". Its not possible to understand a relation from a third angle. But certainly one thing can be said, relations don't work all by themselves. They have to be worked on and worked out..!!
Basically,love relationships, dating, etc.. have a very fairy tale base!! A prince charming on a white horse comes and steals his dream girl, the most beautiful of all and they live their life in sort of pink, red & white color....!!
Let's now cut-in with the harsh reality. People can be romantic but just being romantic is not enough. When love fills up life it feels as though every moment has ceased, but in reality life moves on. If you can cope up with it its well and good or else you can be framed as an emotional fool.
Emotions are in it self the most complicated and delicate things. But love complicates emotions far beyond imagination! So if you are thinking that i'm against the idea of falling in love ,its not true! All i'm saying that just love should not be a part of your life. There is more to life than just falling in love and living happily ever- after.
Today we see teenagers are committed (or they say so) because being in a relation is a status symbol. Love and relations are not symbolic. They are historic...!! Love will come to you when it is time. If you had to force it why would they call it 'falling in love?.' 
Nothing complicates life as love does and nothing simplifies life like love....! Choose your way and live it..! love it or not?!! Just give love a chance and see the magic it spreads..!! it'll make its own way to your life and give a meaning far beyond defining..!! so "let's fall in love...??!!!!!"

The real heroes of INDIA

After the moody weather conditions in Uttarakhand, the rescue operation carried out by the Indian soldiers is just amazing. In a country with a population of millions its really not a great deal loose a few people. Yet the frantic attempts by the army to save the people is really the greatest spirit of humanity alive in today's date. Though it may merely appear to many that they are doing their duty, but the attempts to re-unite the families and their loved one's  at the stake of their own live's is really more than just a duty. 
Today after a week or 10-15 days of the operations, the politicians really are not interested in what's happening. They are merely busy in their cozy life of politics. But all said and done, its really hat's off to our real superheroes who are out there saving lives and disposing the dead with respects. 
The comical superheroes will also bow down to our real heroes. With their continuous efforts let's hope they succeed in bringing peace and relief to the people in Uttarakhand...!! KUDOS TO YOUR GREAT JOB GUYS. GOD BLESS YOU....!!!!